Another chat with Trish: How to triumph over life’s challenges
After sitting down with Tricia Jones for a cup of coffee a while ago, our interest was piqued and we wanted to know more about this extraordinary woman. Getting to the core of what Tricia Jones is all about can’t happen over just one cuppa, so we scheduled a follow-up chat to find out more about her and her successful business.
Fortunately, we share a love of caffeine!
Q: If you had to choose one, what would you say has been your biggest success story is to date?
A: Just one? Really?
I guess it would have to be my own…My biggest success story is and will always continue to be my own. When I look at my personal measure of success: the more opportunities I create to impact the lives of others through helping them to realise their success, the more successful I am.
Each and every opportunity and every life that I’ve had the privilege of touching is part of my success story and I sincerely hope that there will be many and they will all come together to form my “biggest success story to date”.
Q: I’m sure that to achieve these many successes, you have also faced some challenges. What is the biggest challenge you have faced? And how did you overcome that obstacle?
A: My biggest challenge has been my own beliefs about my myself and my abilities. Before I realised that I, and only I, am the master of my destiny, I suffered from a victim mentality. It had me so fixated on my perceived weaknesses and incapabilities. This, coupled with my desire to please others above all else, left me feeling like I just wasn’t good enough.
Overcoming this was and is no easy feat and it’s still something that I have to work on daily. I’ve found that for a belief system to hold true, it requires some indisputable evidence. So, each day, in everything I do, I set out to prove myself wrong. It turns out that there seems to be enough evidence to suggest that maybe, just maybe, I may in fact be good enough after all.
Q: What is your favourite part of the job?
A: Bearing witness to people’s breakthroughs and “aha” moments. I get a kick out of observing individuals and teams break through their self-limiting beliefs, reclaim their power and begin self-directing their journeys as they author their own success stories.
Q: We imagine that when you are in this industry, you need to be quite good at leading people. In what ways are you a leader? How has this helped you with what you do?
A: I believe that to be a leader means to take responsibility and stop making excuses; to recognise and to take ownership of our unique abilities, strengths and talents and how they can be used to either hurt or help others. I believe that to be a leader, you need to actively step up, take action and lead. Who you lead, what you lead, when you lead and how you lead is irrelevant really. It’s the act of leading that makes you a leader.
Every day, in every way, I challenge myself and those around me to stop allowing our lives to happen to us and reclaim our power by taking responsibility, so that one day, we can declare that our lives, our lessons, our successes, our failures, our legacy happened because of us.
Taking responsibility for my life, my circumstances and the impact I have on others has helped me:
· To better position myself to maximise on opportunities, which are constantly available to achieve my success.
· To quickly identify where there are gaps in my knowledge, skills and experience and address them.
· To become insightful in better understanding human survival tendencies and how this impacts on our behaviours, perceived successes and failures.
· To be strategic in my thinking when approaching individuals, teams and organisational challenges.
· To become solution-orientated and not allow the apparent limitations of the circumstances to limit the options.
· To live a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
· To be a better mom, partner, friend, sister, daughter, niece, business partner and all-round pretty cool human.
Q: You definitely have a lot of wisdom, I would love to hear what is your favourite quote?
A: Come on! That’s like asking me which of my children I love more! So, here’s a few…
My go-to phrase has got to be: “Your life is not happening to you; it’s happening because of you!” The Author: It has been adapted by me from many other smart things people have said and my own life experience.
“No failure; only feedback!” – The Author: Adapted from one of the NLP presuppositions, made famous by the NLP community.
“The meaning of your communication is the response you will get!” The Author: Another smart NLP presupposition.
“We see the world not as it is, but as we are!” The Author: Stephen Covey;
“We create our own experiences!” The Author: Someone super smart, I’m sure.
You get the idea, there is clearly a theme here.
Q: What advice would you give to other women entrepreneurs in South Africa?
A: Be authentic!
Trust yourself. You know enough and you are enough. All the resources you need to realise your dreams, you already have. Stop complaining about how unfair your life has been and how hard things are for you and do something to change it. Everything you have seen, heard, felt and experienced has prepared you for the journey you will take towards your success. Use the pain to fuel your fire, the failure to keep you humble and the emotions to keep you human. You will do great things. If you don’t believe it – then no one else will either!
We feel that Tricia certainly is the definition of someone who has been able to tackle life’s challenges and turn it into an inspirational story. After chatting to Tricia, we can clearly see why she inspires others to achieve greatness.
Life may not be easy, but to know that through hard work and perseverance you have the capacity to build your dreams, can make the difference between merely surviving versus living life fully. Multi-tasking may be required along the way, but with some help from Tricia Jones, any person can triumph over life’s challenges.